California couples split up every day, but it doesn't have to get petty or ugly. While most discussion of divorce boils down to one side winning or losing, the reality is that it's entirely possible for two adults to collaborate. Here are a few tips that can help minimize the scars of an ugly divorce.
First, it can help if a couple considers the history of their marriage. They should think about how ugly or reserved the fights were. The same sort of arguments that caused a marriage to fail could also haunt a divorce.
Second, spouses may avoid more problems by being alert. There are ample warning signs of potential conflict, from verbiage to body language. A dedicated effort to avoiding these conflicts may pay off.
Third, one strategy for potentially avoiding a blowup is to disengage when things get heated. It may be a spouse's nature to get defensive and return fire. However, refusing to engage in the conflict and letting cooler heads prevail might suit both parties better in the long run.
Fourth, there are plenty of options for support during a difficult divorce. Both sides may find comfort turning to a life coach, therapist, mediator or attorney for help.
Finally, spouses are more likely to succeed with a collaborative divorce if they avoid taking any bait from their spouse. It can be easy to flame up a conflict, but avoiding that temptation could make the process better for everyone involved.
In the end, a divorce can still be complex. There are a variety of legal issues that go into a divorce. However, an attorney with experience in family law may be able to help a spouse navigate those complex issues with care.