Most California parents have learned that communication is one of the keys to successfully raising a child. The age-old problem has been how to remain in contact after a divorce, especially when distance prohibits face-to-face contact. According to some researchers, modern communication techniques could provide a solution.
Successful co-parenting may lie in increased use of texting and social media to open the channels of communication. In a recent study involving 400 post-divorce families nationwide, the researchers determined that frequency of contact was a determining factor in a noncustodial parent remaining active in a child's life. The study looked at other factors, such as parenting style, but found it was inconsequential. Research was limited to children between age 10 and 18.
Not surprisingly, parents with more frequent contact were better in tune with their kids. Communication puts the parent in a better position to provide advice, nurture and take a more active role. The study found that even smaller contacts are beneficial.
Many parents may find texting, Facebook, Twitter or other forms of communication to be a bit cold or impersonal. But other parents have come to the realization that these methods are the preferred mode of contact with the youth of today. These forms of contact simply reach the child at his or her comfort level.
Most parenting agreements encourage frequent contact between the noncustodial parent and child. Though schedules are often rigid in terms of face-to-face visitation, they are more flexible for other forms of contact, including email, telephone or texting. For a parent in a divorce, he or she must insist that contacts in these forms are permitted with little or no restriction. A lawyer could help ensure a fair parenting agreement.